Have you ever taken a step back and realized that you were the problem? 


I have, I’m in my own way. 


I am the one who is hindering, well let’s say delaying my progress in my life. 


In last week’s episode, What I learned in 2021, I spoke about how I was really in my own way. That I let things that I couldn’t control lose sight of things. So in today’s episode I’m going to pick back up right where I left off and discuss how I plan to start stepping into my purpose and take control.


The first week of 2022 has passed. And I ask myself, what have I done differently? 


Granted this past Tuesday, I got sick and wasn’t feeling somewhat normal until Friday … I’m still waiting on my test results! 


I’m not going to use that as an excuse, but I realized my approach is still the same. 


Today, January 9, 2021, I have learned that I am in my own way. My approach to things that need to get done are still a bit lax for me, so I really am the problem. I spent yesterday planning and I was definitely trying to do too much in one sitting. I really have to utilize my time better. 


 I keep everything in my head, my mind is always on G-O; from the moment I open my eyes to when I lay down and shut my eyes at night. I’m not creating any type of schedule. And I’m definitely not writing anything out, it’s just all in my head.




One embarrassing habit is that on Mondays I am the most productive person I know. And then …  BAM …. Tuesday comes and productive Simmy is out the door. I don’t really know what happens.


 Something. Always. Happens. Apparently. No bueno!


This week I am going to do things a bit differently. 


So, what’s my action plan? How does one fix this? 


I’m going to tell you how, because I’m tired of thinking about  and saying all the things I have yet to accomplish. 


Like I said last week, it’s time. 


Weekly Goals. Every weekend, I  will reflect on the week before and see what goals I did achieve and where I fell short. Now, these weekly goals will cover a wide range of things I’d like to accomplish. Both professionally and personally. For example, last week I was down and sick, so nothing really got done. 


Therefore we are back to the drawing board. And I’m going to share a few of my goals this week, that way you all can check my Instagram to see if I stuck to it. I plan to post at least 3 reels, 2 workout videos, and 2 posts. That is a lot for me. When I tag on family and work.  So, one task I’ll be doing today is writing out my ideas for each one and how I am going to get the content completed. 

Daily Self Care. Ever since becoming a wife, especially a mother I have learned that it is a MUST to fill my own cup. This is something that I do at least once a week, but I really want to figure out a way to do it daily. I was drowning myself in workouts, 7 days a week, working out lasting anywhere from 1.5 – 2 hours. It was my escape and I enjoyed it thoroughly, but it led to more exhaustion and overeating. 

This time around, I want to get my son to sleep by 8:00 PM and have at least 30 minutes to myself. Whether it is to read a book, binge RHONY, soak in the tub,  or cuddle with bae. Whatever is going to feed my soul in peace, I want 30 minutes at the END OF MY DAY to fill my cup, to give me that feeling of calmness, so that I can have another amazing day. 


Therapy. I am going to start going to Therapy again, because I want to become a better version of myself this year. I want to become a stronger woman. A confident woman. I don’t want to wear my emotions on my sleeves and I just want to be in control. I stopped therapy back in 2020 because my therapist wasn’t covered, because my job offers free therapy through a different program. I tried one person, but never scheduled another meeting. And for the past 2 months, I’ve been trying to get back with my original therapist. 


Y’all, I finally got an appointment last week Tuesday and had to cancel because I was sick. I could have been like whatever and not reschedule, but listen sis … I made sure to reschedule that appointment. So Monday, we are back at it! I truly believe having my sessions on Monday at the end of my day are perfect.


There’s just always been a source of peace for me.

Purpose. I am 100% going to do things with a purpose this week. And that’s all there is to it. I can’t stay stagnant. I won’t be the same person I was last year. And you can’t either. We all can’t stay the same person we were the year before if we want bigger and better things for this New Year. 



There you have it. I am nervous to see how this will actually go, but I really just need to take a different approach to what I’ve been doing if I am going to see any positive changes. 


Can you relate to this at all? Have you made any changes yet from last year? 


I’d love to chat, leave a comment.


CIAO Beauties, XOXO.